The Modalities & Control...
Control & Cardinal Signs...
Aries, Cancer, Libra & Capricorn "Want Control"
Most concerned with controlling other people
Control is a major theme in the lives of people who are heavy in cardinal signs. They have a relentless need to push people forward and keep things moving. It's innately part of them. To do this, they take control of the people. They direct them and make decisions for them. Control comes naturally to them and they are constantly wielding it. So, although it often seems like they have master plans to control things, they seldom realize they're doing it. They naturally take positions of control and generally intent to use it for the benefit of the greater good because they always want forward progress. However, even though they are normally unaware of their controlling nature, if someone tries to stand in their way, their reaction is powerful. This can be a source of problems for some cardinal signs as they are often willing to fight for control, which causes discord in relationships and their owns lives. For the most part, cardinal signs handle control issues very well because it is a skill they hone throughout their lives. They usually don't feel they have to fight for it. With the cardinal signs, it is usually referred to as "leadership".
Control & Fixed Signs...
Taurus, Leo, Scorpio & Aquarius "Have Control"
Most concerned with self-control
With the fixed signs, control is a static thing. It's internal and personal. Their biggest goal is to maintain control over themselves. So for the most part, it manifests as tremendous self-control. They internalize control and use it to maximize their own power. Losing self-control is extremely upsetting to them. They become angry with themselves when a person or situation pushes them to the point where they lose self-control. It takes a lot to push them over the edge because they have strong will power. That internal locus of control allows them to resist temptations for pleasure, and the release of anger. While the cardinal signs externalize their control energy, the fixed signs don't have a desire to push people forward and control other people. Furthermore, they aren't worried about people controlling them as is the case with the mutable signs. So, for the most part, control isn't a pressure point for them. They feel comfortable with control and innately feel they have it. They must be pushed hard by an outside influence before control becomes an issue. They believe the most "in control" person is the one who never has to show or prove their control to themselves or anyone else. The fixed signs exhibit this "in control" state of mind. They never have to use control as a thing outside themselves. It is just a part of them. They are firm in their own sense of being. They don't try to control anyone and don't allow anyone to control them.
Control & Mutable Signs....
people who try to control them in order to push them away. Neither of these tactics work for the mutable signs, so they often behave in ways that make people distrust them or see them as weak. The Pisces or Virgo may avoid being controlled by politely sliding out of sight. The Gemini and Sagittarius might use a witty one-liner to make it clear, in their still indirect, non-confrontational way, that they will not be controlled. If these tactics don't work, and they are boxed in and trapped, they will fight back. However, this is truly a last resort for them. What's more, even when they find themselves in situations where they have to fight for control to get something they really want, they still use indirect methods that often end up in long, drawn out struggles. It's actually amazing how much energy and persistence the mutable signs are willing to put forth while never being willing to move in and directly use control. The Pisces may use endless innuendo, convoluted reasoning and hints, or simply try to influence people with charm. The Gemini will put enormous effort into finding a loophole to sneak through and get what they want without anyone noticing. The Sagittarius will persist, for what can seem like forever, with unbelievably creative reasoning to win their case. The Virgo will endlessly nag about every minor detail that supports their case, or will find fault with the other person in order to get their way. Overall, the mutable signs really just want freedom. They aren't interested in controlling other people and they barely worry about controlling themselves. The world is filled with pleasurable experiences, and these signs want the freedom to find all of them and enjoy all of them at their whim.
The Zodiac Signs & Commitment to Relationships...
Read our complete description of each zodiac sign's attitude toward commitment to relationships. Starting with Aries and ending with Pisces, the signs are Ranked from Quickest to Slowest in their ability to commit to relationships. Understand how their willingness to commit is intimately connected with their modality....(Click to read article)