How your Astrological Moon Describes your Mother...

12/28/2014

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Because your astrological moon represents your internal, self-nurturing, self-support system that is first experienced through your relationship with your mother, your moon actually describes your mother.

There is a tangled web of emotion that develops between a mother and child throughout their lives. Your moon, by sign, position and aspect, not only describes this web but it actually describes your mother. To many, this sounds fatalistic. It sounds as though your moon can determine what kind of mother you have, which of course doesn't make sense. However, it is fate in its broadest sense.

The moon you are born with does not determine your mother's treatment of you and her behavior toward you. However, it does determine your reaction toward her and your treatment of her. Your reaction toward her is powerful and actually works to shape the person your mother is in your eyes and the person your mother is in the unique personal, relationship between you and her. Every reaction you have toward her behavior colors her future behavior and treatment of you. If you react well to certain behaviors she exhibits, she is likely to continue those behaviors. If you react with frustration, anger or sadness, she is likely to modify the behavior she exhibited that drew your negative reaction. So that although she may believe she is molding your behavior as the mother in the relationship, you are actually molding each other's behavior, thus creating a tangled web.

These reactions toward your mother's behaviors are largely determined by your moon sign. Because your moon represents your security needs, which are quite powerful especially in the formative childhood years, your moon colors your attitude toward your primary and immediate security provider, usually your mother. In these years of early childhood, your behavior is largely unconscious and controlled by your moon. It is powerful and lays the groundwork for your entire relationship with your mother before you even have a chance to consciously become aware of it.

The Moon in Aries Person & Their Mother...

Your relationship with your mother is never boring. She is strong, emotionally clear and direct. However, because of your intense moon in Aries desire to be a strong leader who charts your own course, your mother can also seem overbearing and willful. This is due to your constant need to push your own agenda forward, which naturally meets resistance from your mother who doesn't always agree with your plans. You see this resistance as willful and you believe it is only meant to sabotage your plans because you fail to realize that she only looking out for your safety and well being. So, you push her further. When she finally gets angry, you see her as antagonistic, selfish and belligerent. The more you push, the stronger she has to be to hold the line with you. As you get older, this cycle makes you see your mother as an assertive, strong willed woman who knows how to take care of herself.

The Moon in Taurus Person & Their Mother...

As a moon in Taurus person, you have high expectations of your mother's ability to provide for your practical, every-day needs. You expect her to be dependable and practical while making sure you have the necessities of life to remain comfortable. Life is meant to be savored and your mother is meant to provide the practical means for you to savor it. As you go through life, you ask her to provide you with a constant stream of things to make your life pleasurable and satisfying. If she is able to provide them easily, you see her as a sweet, reliable provider who is always there for you. If she isn't always to provide them, you see her as an overly practical person who is stubborn and too careful with money. However, because your nature is gentle and sensitive, yet persistent, you push her to her limit to make sure you can get what you want. Yet, you never push her hard enough to make her attitude toward you turn angry and sour. So, you generally see her as kind.

The Moon in Gemini Person & Their Mother...

Your light, detached, active and agile Gemini moon always keeps your mother on her feet. You are like a feather dancing in the wind and she can never quite catch you. She quickly realizes it is useless to try and gives you the freedom you always assume is normal in life.

Her reaction to and acceptance of your need to run free makes you see your mother as light and detached, but she is only reacting to your behavior. You are never going to accept a slow, restricted life. So, if your mother allows you space, you see it as a bit flighty or disconnected at times. If she fights you on this, your quick mind will likely find plenty of sharp and unfortunately often painfully precise verbal rebuttals. Her reaction to these rebuttals will make you believe she has the sharp tongue not you. However you do look to her as a source of information and as a teacher. You always know you can learn from her, and your inquisitive Gemini moon delights in her as a person with whom you can exercise your mind or sharpen your mental claws. Because she can always engage you in games, conversation or any kind of mental gymnastics, you come to see her as intelligent, someone with a sharp mind, or at the very least, someone who is always there to chat.

The Moon in Cancer Person & Their Mother...

You see your mother as someone who goes through a lot of emotionally exhausting times in her life. It's not that she's weak, but she is someone who lands in situations that constantly try her emotional strength. Your need for her motherly nurturing gives you a deep emotional connection with her. It's your need for her emotional attention that makes you focus on her and gives you insight into her emotional ups and downs. You are focused on her, and because she can't give you attention you need when she is in pain, you almost feel the pain with her. Your need for her love gives you a desire to see your mother as sensitive and caring. Then when she isn't, your reaction can be quite powerful. Even the hint of rejection from her sends you into emotional turmoil. The pain of her rejection, which may only be temporary, beyond her control or for your own good, will make you reflect your bad feelings back onto her because they are too painful to claim as your own. It has to be her fault, otherwise you just can't cope. Then suddenly she becomes the mean person who is purposely hurting you, when you are likely just blinded by your own pain. Your feelings for her are strong and you need her in your life, caring for you. She is a pillar for you and you rely on her, but you it doesn't just work one way. You are also always there for her.

The Moon in Leo Person & Their Mother...

A big presence, whether for the better or worse, describes your mother. She is expressive and doesn't hold back her true feelings. You always know where you stand with her because she tells you what's on her mind immediately. Your up-front approach in dealing with her makes this possible for her. You don't mind calling her out on any lies she tells you and you have no problem telling her to mind her own business or stop treating you like a child. This stems from the high sense of pride you have in yourself. It fuels your need to keep a balance of power in your relationship. So, when pressed, you aren't afraid to raise your voice to your mother and tell her how you feel about whatever she is saying or how she is dealing with you. However, your sense of pride in yourself also makes you self-conscious and it gives you a haunting desire to assure yourself that your mother likes you. You must constantly balance your need to maintain power with your need to be accepted and liked.

The Moon in Virgo Person & Their Mother...

Somehow even as a young child you are acutely aware of the give and take dynamic in relationships. Your sense of how much your mother does for you and how well she cares for your needs is acute. So, it's difficult for her to measure up to your expectations and it often seem she isn't meeting your needs. At these times, she seems flighty. It can be frustrating for you because she isn't always available when you need her. It can seem like a certain need for freedom seems to lead her away from you, and you often feel like you are more of adult than her. At the same time, her need for freedom gives you freedom, which you need even if you don't always realize it. Unconsciously you prefer your relationship to be exactly how it is. Your Virgo moon is critical by nature, so it's nearly impossible for anyone to measure to your standards especially someone as important as your mother. In your youth, she is the center of your world and because your focus is centered on her, your critical nature can't help but analyze her every action. Despite your acute sense of her shortcomings, you accept them as being part of a her.

The Moon in Libra Person & Their Mother...

Your mother has standards for your relationship that are clearly defined and understood. She has certain expectations that she always assumes you will fulfill, and you usually do. However, without realizing it, it's actually you who worked to define these rules in order to assure you are always treated fairly, kindly and to assure that your mother will always be there for you. Your expectations and reactions to your mother have served to set up a protocol in your relationship that keeps things peaceful between you. Over time, you each have come to understand your roles. You both know what behavior keeps things fair between you, and therefore, keeps the peace. Although your relationship can, at times, seem a bit formal and structured, it gives you comfort know that as long as you both follow the rules, you will both be happy. You are always careful to tactfully maintain a certain element of control in the relationship so that you can keep your mother close to you, but still make your own decisions, and you mother unconsciously understands that you do this.

The Moon in Scorpio Person & Their Mother...

Your mother sparks more emotion in you than she realizes. You know she cares about you intensely, but she can be too close to you when you need space and too distant when you need her close. From being overly concerned with things that you want to disregard, to becoming enmeshed in your life when you need emotional privacy, it often seems that she is out of tune with your emotional rhythm. But your passionate, and at the same time private, nature creates this very dynamic that ends up driving you crazy. Although you need her close for emotional reassurance and support, you also have a tremendous need for emotional privacy. It's difficult for her to accurately gauge your varying needs for closeness and distance. In trying to figure you out, she may probe you for feedback, which usually makes you clam up in silence. Your resistance can be frustrating and can spark an angry response from her, which makes you see her as aggressive and controlling. However, it's most likely you who is trying to maintain control, and she is the one reacting to you. So, depending on your reactions to her, you see her as a powerful ally in your life who is willing to do anything to protect you when you are wiling to trust her with your deepest emotions. However, when you aren't willing to open up and trust her, you see her as manipulative and controlling.

The Moon in Sagittarius Person & Their Mother...

You are difficult to contain and control, so your mother may have a difficult task at hand in raising you. You require freedom. It's not an option. If your mother isn't willing to give it you, your struggle to get it can exhaust her because you're will not give up until you get it. As a universal sign, you have an "above it all" attitude that makes you feel as though you are very mature and wise, no matter your age. The whole childhood thing can make you restless because you experience the world through the eyes of one of the older astrological signs. For this reason, you see your mother as less mature than she should be. Your moon in Sagittarius vantage point makes you critical of her, and her faults are obvious to you. The fact that you see them, makes her merely human in your view and you can't understand why you should be subject to her commands or requirements when you are both just two humans. From your perspective, she has just as much to learn as you. She is fallible and often immature. In your view, her need for freedom is just as strong as yours. You both deserve to enjoy it, not just her. She comes off as hypocritical because she holds you to standards that she can't live up to in her own life. What's more, her inability to see this makes her seem naive to you and makes you feel even more like you should be in charge of your life.

The Moon in Capricorn Person & Their Mother...

Some way or another, your mother always leaves you feeling vaguely guilty. She may not come right out and say things to make you feel guilty, but they may be subtly woven into her comments. Or in many cases, she just seems to have a very difficult life, and your joys are dimmed in comparison to her hardships. In either case, she controls you with guilt because your Capricorn moon can't help but empathize with any suffering she encounters. You know your mother always has a serious core to her regardless of her outer attitude. She always puts work before play and she never stops planning for the future. She is security oriented and very aware of the how the worst can always happen. You have a driving desire to help her and you always believe she does everything in her power to provide the best for you. On some level, you always feel like she could just make some changes in her life to make things easier for herself but it never happens. She recognizes your ability to act maturely and she often relies on you for practical and emotional support.

The Moon in Aquarius Person & Their Mother...

Your emotional maturity and strength is fully developed from such a young age that your mother's ability to help you grow and support you is almost unnecessary, making your relationship with her a bit distant and detached. You just don't seem to need the coddling that many other people enjoy as children. If anything, you notice that your mother could actually use some. However, you see this intellectually, not emotionally. So, you aren't one to cry with her, hold her closely and have deep emotional conversations. Rather, you simply don't burden her with your problems. You give her space to live her life and time to deal with her issues. It's almost odd when she reprimands you or treats you like a child. There's always a part of you that sees the whole thing as very silly and unnecessary. You know when you have done something you shouldn't have, and her attempts to guide you are nice, but not really helpful. However, it doesn't take very long for her to catch on to your level of maturity and treat you more as equal from a rather young age.

The Moon in Pisces Person & Their Mother...

Its seems that your mother is forever surmounting difficulties. An emotional strength that isn't always obvious pulls her through her life. The sacrifices she makes for you and your family are made out of necessity and she doesn't ask for thanks. However, they do draw her away from you. From a young age, you accept this and you grow up very quickly because of it. With all that she deals with, you know it would be wrong to burden her with too many of your problems. You are strong enough to help yourself with most things and she respects you for it. Yet at times, you can't help but feel like you would like to be more of a helpless child. Even though you are emotionally tough, you sometimes feel like you would like to be able to just rely on her instead of being the strong child she expects you to be. So often she seems to be lost in her own world, which consequently leaves you lost in your own world. You're not always sure she realizes this and so at times it feels like you are bit lost.

52 Comments

Julia L. Bryant

12/8/2015 04:16:43 am

yes, this is exactly true. I did wish not to have to be so strong and be coddled, but that wasn't an option.

Radhika

10/21/2019 02:13:22 pm

Aquarius moon. Both me and my sister have this. Our mother was very distant and manipulative. She was mentally unstable too. Left us both with her mother when I was 2. She criticized and emotionally abused me till I was 37, that's when I realized how cruel she was treating me. We are no contact since then. She has a better relationship with my sister (talking on phone kind of). When I had my son I realized she was a horrible morher. I have forgiven her for the damage she had done to me but I dread her negativity. My son has virgo moon. I fee like a bug under microscope 😀. I strive hard to be a better mother but I know I disappoint him mostly.

10/21/2019 02:27:44 pm

The description of virgo moon is right. I value my freedom a lot and when he(aries sun, virgo moon, cancer asc.)was younger I was not as available to him as he would have wanted. Since he turned six our relationship has improved. I've changed a lot for him and because of him. I have learned to treat him with respect. He has cancer rising so I know I'm very important in his life. I would have preferred a bit more independent child though. I try my best to model good behavior (libra sun, Taurus asc) and inculcate in him a love for music, books, food and science. There's a deep love and attunement between us which I have never felt with anyone else to such degree. I'm a very unconventional mother which he might appreciate once he's in his teens🙂

Art

12/8/2015 12:53:07 pm

With regard to Libra Moons, I'd like to point out the "facade" aspect to Libra. Libra is a Venus-ruled sign, and it strives to put of a pleasing mask, a facade. Behind that facade is the controlling aspect described here. So a Libra Moon can indicate a mother who provided a facade of proper nurturing, an beneath the facade the reality of less-than-adequate nurturing in some way. "But I did this for you," she may say. That may actually be done to make you guilty an thus susceptible to control.

Lez

6/15/2017 11:58:47 am

My moon is in Libra but late degrees. It's opposite my Saturn and sextile my pluto. My sun is conjunct my Saturn.
My experience is both of my parents were distant. Well, one was more than the other. My dad was emotionally and physically absent the most while my mom was more involved. I still felt that detachment. Ever since my mom told my dad about my depression he's trying to be involved.... But not really. I tell my mom (most) everything and she's there for me but I still feel like I'm riding this wave alone. Fighting out there then coming back home. Aries sun, Merc, Mars and Saturn.

Fran

4/27/2018 06:42:21 pm

I have moon in libra and have a very abusive, covert narcissist for a mother. Thank you for your comments, which validate my experience very much. How you describe the facade is exact, as is the guilt used to control.

11/6/2019 09:30:31 am

It's strange that my mom is controlling in different ways too. It's like she's "scared" to lose me if I go my own way or expand my horizons, it's dumb. She's still using the same formula from childhood and clearly, it doesn't work anymore. There's no point and makes me her look immature.
I often compare her to my friends mother's and they're not as suffocating as her. It's like I have to be her vision of perfect to get by in her eyes but I got sick of it. Very shallow and strained connection :/

gayle

2/26/2016 04:33:52 pm

The Moon represents the chart holder's mother
I have natal Moon in Aquarius conjunct chiron. My mother had me 10 months after the death of her first born child. My mother never bonded with me. My mother rejected me
I have natal Moon square North Node. I mother was not supportive.
I have natal Moon opposite Uranus. My mother was/is emotionally unbalanced.
I have natal Moon square Mars. My mother was violently abusive towards me.
I have natal Moon semi square Lilith. My mother had to choice between siding with my younger emotionally disturbed sister (I have natal Uranus 3rd house) or me. My mother choice my sister.
I have natal Moon natal semi square Mercury. My mother was verbally abusive to me. Excessively critical.
I have natal natal Moon square Neptune. My mother was/is and Alcoholic/Drug addict.
I have Natal Pluto IC. My mother is/was very domineering and controlling

2/26/2016 05:59:04 pm

Sorry for the typo's.
***I have natal Moon square North Node. MY MOTHER was never supportive or encouraging. She belittled me.

2/26/2016 07:30:41 pm

9/10/2017 04:28:45 pm

Gayle- it sounds like a dreadful short straw you drew. Me too. My moon is in Libra, which sounds so innocuous. My 'mother' was emotionally and psychologically evil towards me, and would still be if I hadn't gone no contact. Her own birth chart seems all centerd on being a malignant narcissist, it's unbelievable.

Gayle

11/20/2020 01:17:47 am

Plz contact me

Christian

10/15/2020 01:45:27 pm

Hi Gayle! I do not know the pain of this, but my heart breaks thinking of a little child growing up in this environment. The power a parent has over a child is such a double edged sword. I can only imagine the horror. I'm so sorry. I hope you one day KNOW that her treatment of you does NOT define you. It's so incredibly hurtful, but it is not truthful. You ARE worthy of being chosen. You ARE loved. You ARE wanted. Her actions are not because of you, you did nothing to deserve them. You were just subject to them. I hope you know this already and think what a silly person for saying such things. Because...duh! But if you don't, take it to heart and KNOW it as truth. I hope you're doing well!
Sincerely, a Pisces rising, Sag sun, Virgo moon.
Mother to a Gemini moon, Leo Moon and Aquarius Moon, in that order. I think my youngest is beautiful and amazing and he's like " Mom, get off of me!" Haha. I don't find it hard to believe that I will quickly learn to straight talk him when he doesn't respond to my cottling. Whatever I need for this kid to stay close! Haha. I liked this description bc most say I don't cottle him, but speak to him like an adult, BUT I would do it all day if he let me! So that alway puzzled me.

Dee

5/9/2016 08:58:54 am

Very true. I have a moon in pisces, and my brother has a moon in scorpio. Watching my mother being physically abused by my dad, and working 2 jobs, it always seemed as if I was a burden to her. My brother would argue all of the time with my mother. Since he was older, she had many expectations from him, and this drove him off of the wall. He was also not in the greatest spot, emotionally, but he knew how to voice his opinion. So when i saw him argue with my mom, it just looked as if she had too much on her plate.

I would stay in my room, and never really opened up to her. Cried about my problems to myself. I never wanted to see her upset, because i knew she worked so hard for us. But at times, all i wanted was for her to listen to my problems.. but i never was able to. I noticed every time i wiped her tears away, she would hug me. Which was basically telling me.. i had to keep her from crying, and not the other way around.

I had no one to run to to cry about my problems, which led me to make some AWFUL decisions as an adult--resorting to alcohol, sleeping with an odd number of men, and wasting my money.

but when i hit rock bottom, it was my mom who saved me from downfall. Today we are more open.. but i wish i had that emotional support as a child.. I probably wouldn't have made the mistakes i made..

Til date, my brother still has mixed feelings for Mom. He knows she's always going to protect him, but at times he feels she's manipulating him. Honestly, she wants best for him and me (she's a capricorn moon), but my brother needs his freedom to the maximum. In one argument, he actually told her he's not going to allow her to see his son, and doesn't want his son raised by her.

He was emotional at the time he said it, and my mother took it to her heart. However, he still brings his son to see my parents, but my mom is extremely caring and provides everything financially for her grandson, but she refuses to be extra close to him. Again, this makes my brother upset.

it's a rollercoaster for sure with my scorpio moon brother and cappy moon mother.

Ruby

7/27/2016 03:56:04 pm

I'm Scorpio moon my mum was really nice to me.she was protective and controlling though.she also worked hard for us.Ive been protecting myself from the world as well.l don't trust people easily.am attracted to man who are protective and nurturing.

Amanda

10/3/2016 07:37:17 pm

This hits pretty close to home in terms of relating to your brother for me. I have a scorpio moon and my younger siblings have a capricorn and aquarius moon. Growing up and even to this day, I've always been the one who argues with our mom and calls her out on something etc. I'm also really distant with my mom now because at one point in my teenage years I started to feel resentment towards her manipulating and controlling behaviour over me. I also could not stand being close to her or even telling her anything because of this. But when i was still a child, I was more close with her in a sense than my siblings because I would still tell her things/treat her as a close friend, but another reason for the distance today was her own unresponsiveness and distance from me/us.

I always wonder what my siblings think of me whenever I argue or throw criticisms at our mom, because they have a much more emotionally distant and formal relationship with her, even when they were younger compared to me. I worry that they see me as the bad guy sometimes..because I know they can't understand the length and capacity of all the tensions and emotional attachments I have with her, as well as some of my own negative opinions towards the things my mom has said and done in the past. (She was emotionally and psychologically neglectful and abusive at times, to me and my sister)

I also worry about how our relationship is going to play out in the future. But despite everything that has happened and the emotional distance and lack of proper communication between us even under the same roof, I've been struggling to deal with my emotional turmoil of being affected by her versus trying to gain emotional control and independence to not feel guilty towards her for everything that I do which she disapproves of. I feel like the resentment and tension will only continue to grow in the future the more she tries to control what I do, leading to a similar situation of your brother's. The only way it may get better is if we both learn to communicate better and if she stops being controlling over me.

Maddy

6/16/2016 09:34:51 pm

SouthFloridaAstrologer, I've loved many of your descriptions of aspects and placements but I have to say some of the Scorpio moon mother description in my experience and opinion is off. I guess its difficult to generalize a moon placement when there are so many other details that tie into how its experienced but my mother simply did not let me be myself. She manipulated not just me, but others around her. Court battles were another one of her power games she enjoyed. Lying to the courts when I was little and fabricating a story that my father molested me so she could get custody and more money was the one burned in my mind the most, and well she lost that battle. Everyday regular situations she would blow so far out of proportion that they became dramatic circumstances that were illustrated as some crisis. It was crazy listening to all of it while we were young. Growing up with her was to ignore my own feelings and make sure she was taken care of first. Blaming, shaming and guilt were the underlying messages I received. Once my brother and I became older we didn't really have a strong identity formed and we both suffered paralyzing anxiety/depression. Its taken years of self analysis, counseling and meditation to find some self love and peace in my life. My brother never found it and committed suicide. Just wanted to put my story out there because I don't think it was me who was trying to control the situation. And trust....forget about it! She didn't know what respecting someones privacy was furthermore the lying kinda closed the deal on that for me. On the contrary, I've read some Scorpio moons love their Moms and are close with them so like I said I guess it just depends on other details in the chart. My Pluto is in my 12th conjunct Asc., Moon is the 1st, so 1st house ruler is in the 12th. :-)

6/16/2016 09:59:28 pm

SouthFloridaAstrologer, I've loved many of your descriptions of aspects and placements but I have to say some of the Scorpio moon mother description in my experience and opinion is off. I guess its difficult to generalize a moon placement when there are so many other details that tie into how its experienced but my mother simply did not let me be myself. She manipulated not just me, but others around her. Court battles were another one of her power games she enjoyed. Lying to the courts when I was little and fabricating a story that my father molested me so she could get custody and more money was the one burned in my mind the most, and well she lost that battle. Everyday regular situations she would blow so far out of proportion that they became dramatic circumstances that were illustrated as some crisis. It was crazy listening to all of it while we were young. Growing up with her was to ignore my own feelings and make sure she was taken care of first. Blaming, shaming and guilt were the underlying messages I received. Once my brother and I became older we didn't really have a strong identity formed and we both suffered paralyzing anxiety/depression. We both had substance abuse problems and I had bulimia too. Its taken years of self analysis, counseling and meditation to find some self love and peace in my life. My brother never found it and committed suicide. Just wanted to put my story out there because I don't think it was me who was trying to control the situation. And trust....forget about it! She didn't know what respecting someones privacy was furthermore the lying kinda closed the deal on that for me. On the contrary, I've read some Scorpio moons are really close with their Moms and get along well with them, so I guess it just depends on other details in the chart. My brother had Moon in Pisces and My Mom has Moon in Leo. My Pluto is in my 12th conjunct Asc., Moon is the 1st, so 1st house ruler is in the 12th. :-)

9/30/2020 07:06:01 am

Omg I really hope this isn’t true about all mums! My daughter Has Scorpio moon. She is only 6 months old and I love her so much it’s scary. I can see aspects of controlling in my nature. I’m a Virgo, with Virgo rising and cancer moon. So I do like things how I like them and am very protective of my
Loved ones but I really hope not to project control onto her

Rubeena

7/27/2016 03:47:24 pm

I don't remember my mother being manipulative,protective yes,controlling maybe.Because we were not allowed to go to friends house when we were little.Just watched TV.She also supported me in my interest like, sports,dancing,traveling.Since I am overly sensitive and cried a lot it was seen as overbearing at time.
When I had my first heart break,,she advised me not to give my feeling and get attached to guys until I find out if they were the right one for me.

7/27/2016 04:37:17 pm

I'm moon in Scorpio by the way.i was my mum's favourite. She reacted to my roller-coaster emotions. but was always there for me and I was there for her until she died.i also stopped work and cared for her during her last days.After she was gone I felt lonely,my brother and sisters started showing their claws since mum was not there to protect me anymore.I saved my money and left the country.I am married and have two children and never went back home.Am scared of even passing by the house. I miss her.when I was naughty she use to say,you'll see when am dead.i had no idea what she was talking about.

7/27/2016 07:30:14 pm

Rubeena, that is so lovely and heartwarming to hear. I'm happy you're Mom and you had a close relationship and she was caring and supportive to you. Hearing people have Mothers like that makes me truly happy for them! Neither one of you sounded particularly controlling either....thus I don't always agree that's the Scorpio Moon experience. :) Did your Mom happen to have a water moon or sun also?

Mary

7/28/2016 04:09:15 am

Are there any positive aspects about any of the moons you describe? It all sounds like a good relationship with your mother is impossible...

7/28/2016 09:26:31 am

When the chartholder's Moon is aspected hard (square, opposition, conjunct} there ususally is some stress issues with the relationship with the mother.
This is not the case when the Chartholder's Moon aspects are easy (trine, sextile)

jessica

9/29/2020 07:03:31 am

Exactly! especially moon in pisces comes off very negative

Sarah Quinn

2/27/2017 02:16:53 am

My husband and I both have moon in Cancer (mine is 4 degrees and his is 12 degrees). I've always interpreted Cancer moon to be one with slightly rose colored glasses when viewing our mothers (without hard aspects). We know our mothers went through hard times but they did their very best and we love them dearly. We tried to comfort their sadness and talk them through hardships and because of that we are able to stay very close as adults. My mother has Capricorn moon and had a hard time with being a mother because she never wanted to even be female (Pluto in the 10th house). My older sister has Leo moon and my younger siblings (twins) have Libra moon. The younger ones don't talk to her now and she has a hard time with that. I think they are being ridiculous but each of us had different experiences with her and even though none were horrible we each had a different view of her and handled it in our own ways. I love my mother and my mother-in-law (Aries moon) very dearly and feel blessed to have them in my life. I'm due to have my baby on March 2nd, 2017 when the moon is in Taurus. I cannot wait to be the best mother I can possibly be to my baby daughter. :)

Rachel

4/7/2017 05:45:22 pm

How does Pluto in the 10th house make someone not even want to be a woman?? I have Pluto in the 10th and although it is often difficult to be a woman In such a patriarchal society I prize my femininity

Sarah

4/7/2017 06:06:43 pm

You could possibly have something that helps you deal with that placement better than my mother does. I learned about that in an astrology meeting a while ago. I think they were going over a book by Jeff Green if I remember correctly.

4/12/2018 08:04:16 am

Aw Sag moon kind of made me sad. There was nothing positive about it. Do sag moons like their mom at all?

GypseeW27

2/21/2020 03:44:17 pm

I know a few Saggie mooners, 3 of them are close to me (I'm sun in saggie) all three of them are extremely close and adore their mother's. But yes on what above article stated: all 3 were handfuls to raise.

Hyde van clyde

11/6/2019 02:24:19 am

Do you have summary about the father and its respective planet as well? Is it the sun or saturn?

Susan

1/8/2020 08:47:45 am

Yes, it's very true that the natural aspects to the moon describe the relationship with the Mother, and unfortunately all of the emotional troubles the person will have because of it.

My Mother is an extremely emotional narcissistic parent, and always has been. It took me all my life to fully understand her and the extent of her cruelty toward me. I have finally cut her out of my life. I tried to cling to the illusion of a family my whole life and endured a life time of covert abuse. It came down to my survival and my health, and I finally accepted the truth.

My natal moon squares Saturn, Pluto, Uranus, Mercury and the Midheaven in the 10 house. My natal moon is in the 7th. It also squares Saturn in the 4th house.

I also have Venus in the 12th house, which in addition to other things, I think also indicates being born with a secret female enemy.

My Mother, being the narcissistic person that she is, was all about false appearances to the outside world, so her real treatment of me was secret to others, and she made me into the perfect scapegoat for the family.

If anybody has had life long problems w their Mother's, please look up Narcissistic parent disorder. It will shed a lot of light.

kim

7/11/2020 12:27:49 am

What is your moon sign

The Good + The Bad

8/20/2020 03:44:42 am

My moon is Pisces, Growing up my mother was very distant, It always seemed liked whenever she walked out the house door (for days sometimes) she would disappear into a her own world of hardships. (My mind as a child) but walk back into the house & go straight into her room to recover.

I was a very happy child growing up, I learned to be alone, to create things out of boredom.. I was my own entertainment

I was also the child the understood that my mother was un happy so whatever she needed from me I was always RUNNING to do it for her, any thought of her being less stress gave me comfort

As I grew up & become a mother, I realized that a lot of the things I created my Mother to be was in my head, I created false positives for her to escape reality

My mother is a drug abuser, she is abusive physically + verbally

I still love her... But I know that I must create a life around her & not with her
I am the child that will try MY VERY HARDEST
To be a better parent for my child.
To be a better person

Laura Ospina

8/5/2021 10:41:40 pm

Wow I resonated with this. Kinda makes me tear up because I don’t feel so alone.

Vaishali

8/21/2020 01:26:40 pm

Moon in gemini-
I have a horrible relationship with my mother. She is highly controlling and also comes off as narcissistic. Can be very manipulative as well.

My sister has a Leo moon- completly different first born treatment.

Sam

11/21/2020 04:22:12 am

Moon in Gemini here too . My relationship with my mother has ALWAYS been turbulent. She’s a manipulator and very very stubborn lady . Everything has always got to be her way . She made my childhood and teens years hell . I’m in my mid 20’s now and she tries to patch our relationship and tries to hug me or try to be friends out of no where at random moments . But where was this when I was younger ? Like I don’t need it now - its weird . Deep down I tried to forgive her actions but I can’t help but feel resentment towards her which I should go to therapy for. Idk

My sister moon is in Scorpio. We have different opinions on my mother . She deff the favorite . My mom buys her brand name purses and many luxury brands . And Secretly gifts her thousands of dollar for her birthday . But when it’s my birthday , not even a card or a ‘happy birthday ‘

11/8/2020 12:00:59 am

I'm a sag moon and I did indeed have a very difficult relationship with my mother, I feel like most of it is true if you had parents that weren't willing to give you freedom (mine), I guess if they just let the child have their freedom it might have been easier for them but other than that it's very accurate, we are a lot to handle for parents because we hate being controlled and not having space to breathe but at the same time we do want nurturing and love and for them to be there for us (like any child though) and we tend to be very mature even at a very young age, at least I always felt like an equal to my mother rather than someone who I owed respect to, she made a lot of mistakes but wanted me to be perfect and never make one, she was very manipulative and abusive with words and actions, she exposed me to the entire family and her friends when we had a fight or I had a problem to play the victim even though I was in a very bad mental state at the time, she said horrible things throughout the years, she once told me to kill myself properly if I was gonna try do it again, she sometimes hit me (which was very traumatic since i'm not at all a physically violent person), she always suffocated me but was never there when I really needed, she made me feel guilty for everything that went wrong in life, even if it wasn't my fault and made me feel bad about myself my whole life, she denied everything when it came to her taking faults, I had to take charge of her emotional baggage countless times and she still managed to make me feel like the bad guy (my mother has an Aquarius moon, and she had a very difficult relationship with her mother too so I understand where all of this comes from but it didn't make it any easier on me tho) a very toxic mother for me, but in despite of everything I don't hate her, she has her own baggage and it's heavy as well so there's no use on crying over spilled milk at this point, it's better to heal and let go. I guess every sag moon has a different experience with their parents depending on their own mother and the liberty they are allowed to have, my best friend was born the day before me and her relationship with her mother is not even nearly as bad as mine with my mother, she just sees her as kind of flighty and immature but she was always given a bit more of freedom so that kind of helped I think, but I really hope not all of us sag moons had bad experiences with our mothers :(

1/11/2021 01:48:59 am

Wow I related to this so much. One of my biggest issues with my mother in my childhood is that she always wanted to control everything I said/did to play out to her advantage so she could have a better relationship with my stepdad. I wasn’t too easy on her though and still spoke my mind when it wasn’t convenient to her bc I didn’t think she had the right to silence me bc I always saw us both as equals. Even as a child I saw her as immature for not being able to defend me and being so submissive to him. Every time we fight she manipulates the situation to her advantage, plays the victim and tells everybody what she thinks I did wrong (and adds on to it by lying) without mentioning how she hurt me, and completely ignoring me at times when I was so obviously falling apart because of her. When I confront her about it she acts like she never said it. I have had to be the bigger person in all these situations and indirectly take responsibility for all our conflicts. She is so oblivious to all the pain inflicted on me and she has restricted me from really living out my life so far. I need physical space and alone time in order to not feel couped up and she always thinks I’m doing something behind her back and wants to micromanage me. Im learning to move on currently and trying to be more understanding towards her and basically being the bigger person. At the end of the day I’m the only one that gets hurt by dwelling on the recent past, since she really doesn’t see anything wrong with our relationship. She’s a Leo moon btw lol. Sending you and all other sag moons a hug

Ali

11/20/2020 01:53:05 pm

I’m a mom to a Pisces moon baby and this makes me very sad. I hope I can be present and involved in my sons life growing up

Vanessa

12/30/2020 10:01:30 pm

Hello me too, I really feel sad to read such bad things about the moon in Pisces I want to be a great mother.

12/2/2020 06:21:29 am

Im a capricorn moon my mother was very niave she use let my alcoholic brother take over the house i hand to stand infront of her from a early age to protect her and i use try sort all the problems out i defo resent her alot now im older as she still hangs on me and now im finally breaking free. I have a brother who has pisces moon he lazy hes always in a dream world so irritating to people but my mum completely treats him like a baby and hes now 36 talk about mummys boy. My other brother aries moon he wanted away as soon as he could walk lol hes always been abit me me me me me loves talking about what hes accomplished. My niece is Scorpio moon her mum was very strict with her when she was little now she defo has away with words just intense but she is very close to her mum now. My other brother he has addictions he has cancer moon he is the tides he drinks deal with his emotions i also had boyfriend he has cancer moon he was same very emotional but loved cooking looking after me i no alot cancer moons and they all had a bad up bringing where mother let father hit them even tho mother tried look after them after by feeding them all therw mothers was emotional .

LaToya link

12/10/2020 09:30:51 am

This is a fantastic article! I love how you explain the native's perspective of the mother is merely her responding to the native's emotional nature. So cool!

khushbu

12/19/2020 05:46:19 am

I have a moon in capricorn and this is really good..
my mom and I are really exhausted any solutions

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1/10/2021 11:36:42 am

Loveed reading this thanks

Jennifer

2/11/2021 02:03:19 am

I have a Scorpio Moon. My mom was a wonderful role model to me. She worked very hard and did everything she could to help me. When I got a divorce and there was just my son and me I lived with my mom and we helped each other out. Even though we disagreed on parenting strategies I knew that she was always extremely loyal to me and my son. We live together and I was with my mom until she died. I tried to do as much as I could to help her have happiness because she was a divorcee also. I try to be a good mother to my son who has a Pisces Moon. But I think he has always distanced himself from me and so I try to be more self contained and not so emotional when it comes to him and his wife and children. I love them and particularly my son immensely but I know I have to be more self contained and not so spontaneous with him and his family thank you for this article and giving me the opportunity to talk about my experience as a Scorpio Moon with a Pisces sun and a Pisces and son.

Xavier

3/7/2021 12:13:15 am

Sagittarius Moon here; Scorpio Rising, Pisces Sun, Mercury and Venus both in Aquarius; Mars, Saturn, and Pluto in Scorpio. I'm generally very, very close to my mother, always have been and always will be. My mother is a Sagittarius Sun with the Moon in Cancer and Virgo Rising; Mercury in Capricorn and Mars in Scorpio, Venus in Aquarius (like me). Our energy is mostly harmonious. As a child, my mother was extremely attentive to me and highly protective and influential, she didn't let me out of sight when around strangers and always oversaw my development with an eagle's eyes.

As I grew, I started to notice she could be controlling and very subtly manipulative to keep me near her as my maturity approached. Even in my 30's now, she is still this way, but now it's starting to shift in a direction that I am fighting to lay down my own rules, and she doesn't offer me a lot of respect when it comes to me making my own decisions. They often clash with her wants and needs because she was so used to controlling me as a child -- I was a very peaceful child and was painfully naive at one time, so I was easy to control. Very obedient and kind; sensitive. When I eventually got a backbone, that's when things started to become strained. I'm still mostly in a good bond with my mom, but I wonder if it'll always be that way with each year that passes. She wants the best for me, I do know that for sure, and I want the best for her... But it seems whenever I am unrelenting in wanting something for myself, she opposes it, or she becomes emotionally immature and starts acting like a martyr.

I have a Cancer Sun ex with a Capricorn moon; he had a heavy Cancer stellium, and with all other Cancer placement people in my life before him, I've not really had a good experience with people who have these placements. They are emotionally immature and manipulative. I'm supposed to get along with Cancers, based on stereotypical astrology, but I find I do not. I get along better with Fire and Air sign people more than Water or Earth sign people.

5/25/2021 10:42:14 pm

I’m an Aquarius moon. My moon is in square to majority of my planets. My daughter is 1 years old and she is also an Aquarius moon like me but her Moon isn’t negatively aspected at all. Her Aquarius moon is Trine Venus and Conjunct Mars. Emotionally I can see why she is an Aquarius moon compared to how I was as a child.
Personally, I rejected my Leo moms attempts to baby me. I remember times where I was very young, I would be sick, she would try to comfort me, and I would push her away. I didn’t want anyone around me when I wasn’t feeling well, I would much rather deal with my pain privately. And my daughter at 1 years old even pushes me away sometimes when she cries and I try to hug her.lol My mom caught on very quickly to how I wanted to be nurtured. Her presence and her providing for me was enough. We did talk about my feelings many time when I would have a hard time in school. But I’ve only caught my mom crying twice in my life. Her strength seemed unreal to me and early in my childhood she seemed to sacrifice so much for me and my older brother (Pisces moon). She was a working women and it made me happy to see her love in that way rather than a way that would be more interpersonal. Once she wasn’t a single mother anymore (when I turned 8) she picked up a very bad drug habit. This but a bad detachment and strain on our relationship. It played out in both ways for me. I feel like the entire natal chart in Aspect to the moon gives more clarity but it also lets you understand what your Destiny is. I’m thankful for my Aquarius moon, it gave me the strength to understand my emotions without needing someone there to monitor me or validate my emotions. I validate my emotions and process them on my own rather than spiraling into a deep depression because I feel like I can’t express myself to anyone. People saying “Let it out” in regards to emotions always confused me because I feel like it refers to speaking about your emotions or physically expressing your emotions. For me, I analyze my emotions and later and life I learned to cry when I feel like crying, and not to hold back what I feel. But it also made me realize where I truly do lack an emotional attachment to many things in life, which comes as a positive for me. I don’t dwell in my emotions, they come and got like to flow of water, in motion. So I don’t surpress and I don’t dwell and that’s why I seem aloof sometimes. Emotions are just like fresh water for me. Self cleansing and moving. And so with my Aquarius moon, instead of resenting my mother for her mistakes, I’m understanding towards her as just another human being. I don’t know my mothers story or what cause her to be the way she is. She tried her best for me and ultimately it has done more good than harm, truly. I feel as though if it wasn’t for my Aquarius moon, I would have given up LONG ago and I would feel so bad for myself always looking for somebody to lean on emotionally.
But luckily I can pick myself and dust my own shoulder off and keep moving. Also, nothing surprises me anymore.lol

8/5/2021 10:47:44 pm

Pisces moon here! THANK you for this article. And for the people commenting as well. I always felt some sort of way when it came to my mom. On one hand she’s always provided me with yk the basic living needs, says I love you, I’m proud of you, you’re beautiful etc… but yet I always didn’t feel fulfilled or felt that nurture for real… it’s hard to describe. For background I’ve always been a straight AB student and hated feeling like a burden to my mother therefore always did everything she told me naturally. I’m also very independent and Anywho this article really resonated (-:

eli

12/18/2021 05:44:40 am

Capricorn Moon in 6th house over here… Very strained relationship with mother but unacknowledged because she is narcissistic and when you confront her you are the crazy one so I don’t say anything anymore and come up with excuses about work not to have much contact with her. So she thinks in her own mind that we are the perfect family. She abused us physically, emotionally, mentally, verbally all our lives. She literally tortured us and with my Saturn in Aquarius in 8th house my father was so distant, disconnected and aloof so we had no one to save us apart from neighbours occasionally intervening after hearing our screams. And now this woman after so many years just doesn’t get it and she thinks we are good but my stomach turns everytime I see my phone ringing and it’s her. I don’t pick up and I send a message later that I was working. You can’t have a conversation with her. It is all about her and her problems or how cool people find her or how terrible my father is or subtle insults or guilt-tripping about random things. I am currently healing from huge childhood trauma because of my mother. She says she doesn’t remember anything when I talked to her about how abusive she was until I left the house (and still is to my younger sister). She says „no it didn’t happen like that“… She is always the right one and me and my older sister we are the crazy ones. I am on my path of healing and moving on and forgiving but I always have to cringe a little when she still doesn’t get how she destroyed us and asks „innocently“ stuff like „so are you flying home for the Holidays?“ - No madam, I am not. In fact I moved to another country to be away from this sick setup you call family. So yeah, this is my Capricorn moon placement. I have had to work so much to help myself feel OK with feeling like I don’t have to work hard or betray myself to earn things such as affection or self care, even! We were raised with such emotional austerity it made me so strict and cruel to my own self and I worked myself to the ground before I was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease and had to focus on healing myself and giving myself the love that I never got and become my own mommy and care for me the way I wished I would have been cared for as a child.

Julia

2/20/2022 04:17:36 pm

Anyone here have Aries moon. My son has moon in Aries and I’m curious to hear about your experience.